Learning to Solve Your Problems – Something Not Ever Taught in School!
It's not taught in school. You may or may not have learned it in your family environment. In military service they train you to be a problem solver. But how do you actually solve the issue? Here's some tips you can use to learn to solve your problems, whatever they are.
Learning to solve life's problems typically happens by the process of elimination for most of us. A long, drawn out process of elimination that may never really be completed. We may learn to not do a specific thing again because we were stung by the results.
But that may not transfer to an event or circumstance that is close in nature, but not exact.
We are taught scientific processes and analytical problem solving in schools and colleges. Unfortunately those methods don't help us much when we try to tackle life's various issues.
If you consider what percentage of a class of 30 students would agree that Mathematics is a great subject, you might answer “around 10 to 35%” and that is all.
True, most kids today are not thrilled to solve Mathematical equations. Not because they do not know the processes involved, but because of the lack of interest in it.
In a similar way, our daily activities do not mean 100% joy and 0% problems. At times, we have more problems than joy. Fortunately, some individuals are better skilled in handling problems properly.
Want to know their secrets?
First – Consider their approach.
Carefree people, as some might call them, or those that seem to have little problems or have banished them, have one thing in common. That is optimism.
These folks are not immune to problems. Indeed, they have their fair share.
Try remembering a colleague, a relative, a friend, or someone from your community who has the brightest smile at the start until the end of the day. How many times did you see that person frown? Carefree people are fun to be with because their attitude is contagious.
Have you ever tried asking them how they carry their problems lightly?
Here are their secrets:
1. Learn to control your feelings by actively separating negative feelings from positive thoughts. This is the first step in solving problems. Only after you have cleared your mind with unnecessary thoughts can you start solving your problems accordingly.
2. Treat each problem as challenge and opportunity for self-improvement.
3. Free that scapegoat attitude. Are you pointing your finger or blaming others for mishaps? Take responsibilities for each and every one your mistakes. No one is perfect, so never put the blame on others.
4.`Use a pen and paper, and rate the depth of the problem and possible answers to your problem. This 'probability law principle' will allow you to evaluate how far you have actually thought of resolving your problems.
5. Keep a journal and treat it as a “secret friend” who is always willing to listen to your grievances. Write your feelings freely. Answers develop from seeing issues in different aspects.
6. Develop a noteworthy hobby, for this will help you lessen or minimize stress in your life. You need decompression time!
7. Take time off from work and create variations of your daily schedule. Relax and check out the best movies in town. Travel and meet new wonderful people. You will find these activities worthwhile in the long run to prevent you from getting into a rut.
But the wolf is at the door now.
The above tips will help you optimize those positive feelings of yours for the long term.
But let's say you are already consumed by some hefty problems. Here are the 1-2-3 steps to actively implement right now to guide your problem solving:
1. Determine the root cause of the problem. If you think it is difficult, ask hundreds of why’s and what’s and you will soon find out the cause.
2. Think, strategize, and act for resolution.
3. Develop a strong desire to solve the problem.
4. Review the situation to help you to avoid repeating the same mistakes you committed beforehand.
Consider that everybody experiences lowliness many times, but problems are problems. They are not there to annoy you but to afford you a chance to grow. They become bigger problems when you don't see them as such, and refuse to learn or grow from them.
Problems are created when you have unrealistic expectations and cannot accept your limitations. We all have those traits to a certain degree.
Once you accept those limitations, problem solving is just a 1-2-3 step, hassle-free, and a life-sharpening experience. Therefore, never allow yourself to become overwhelmed with a problem (an opportunity for growth) or run away and lock yourself in your room when a problem strikes.
Consider that problems are states of your being, limited to something you need the most.
But if you cannot learn from it or grow from it, you need to accept it. That may be difficult. Accept the problem for now, let go and you will free yourself from that worry. Remember, less worries mean less problems.
Life has a way of coming back around with the same issue so that you'll have another chance to learn and grow. And you may indeed be better equipped mentally and emotionally at that time to put the lesson behind you.