Don't Be So Quick To Embrace Defeat
Trying to achieve balance and success while acknowledging all your past mistakes is like trying to build a house on a foundation of broken bricks.
Perception Is Yours, Not The Circumstances
You may have a very acute sense of the engineering capacities of those bricks. You may be able to show every flaw in them. You may have been the best brick inspector to ever walk the planet, and able to detail every flaw, every brick.
That's great, congratulations on your accomplishments. But pointing every problem and inadequacy in your life (or in this case a house being built), won’t lead to success. That only shows you can point out mistakes, and that you embrace defeat. Defeat every single time something doesn't go right for you.
Dennis Waitley said, “The winners in life think constantly in terms of I can, I will, and I am. Losers, on the other hand, concentrate their waking thoughts on what they should have or
would have done, what might go wrong or what they can't do."
The need to find security in the boundaries you set for yourself by embracing every failure, every loss, will only lead to more failure, and more loss. “Keeping it real” then becomes a statement of “I expect to fail at everything I do. And, I welcome it!”
How You Handle It Is Key
We all have results that are not to our liking, not what we wanted to occur. That is not at the crux of the issue. And we should acknowledge, but briefly, that the results were not what we desired. That gives us perspective, and helps us steer our course to success.
The crux is the clinging onto, the embracing, validation, and owning of the negative result. Acknowledge it briefly, and then let it go. As one of my college psychology professors said, say it once, then shut up!
Get back to focusing on the terms of I can, I will, and I am. Defeat and loss have no place on your path to success. Get past it as quick as you can.